ADOPTION................. ............?
Q. Ok, so I asked a question about 'references' yesterday, and im wondering do they call your 'references' straight away while you are at the shelter? or do they call after you leave? I have a VERY well looked after Pointer already that I will bring to meet the new dog, so maybe they will see I am a responsible owner lol? Do ALL Shelters insist on having references? I honestly don't have anybody to put:( What questions will they ask my references? Oh and remember I live in Australia. lol thanks, but I don't have my neighbours number, and my manager ect. don't know anything about my dog!
Asked by HappyLilVegemite - Thu Jul 2 23:03:30 2009 - - 6 Answers - 0 Comments

A. probably after you leave, or while youre in a different room, but it all just depends on the place. I'm pretty sure they wont call while youre sitting right there though because that would be awkward. and most places call your vets office, and check to see if your past pets have had all their shots on time and stuff, so its kind of a big task of a thing they go through MOST shelters ask for references. just put a family member, a landlord, a manager from work, or a neighbor. even if they see you have a well taken care of dog, they'll probably still call your references. hahaha it shouldnt be a big deal though, they just want to be sure the dog is going to the right owner, and going to a home that will be the right fit for it. oh and… [cont.]
Answered by :] - Thu Jul 2 23:15:05 2009

In a private adoption, is previous depression a factor if the birth mother does not care?
Q. I know that for some adoption agencies in the US and in some countries there are different rules for adoption. Previous depression, BMI, etc are also factors. Are private adoptions subject to the same rules/conditions?
Asked by Vanity99 - Wed Feb 25 21:41:24 2009 - - 5 Answers - 1 Comments

A. If your aim is to adopt a new born privately then these things are the decision of the mother choosing the family who will adopt. So even if the agency doesn't have an issue the mother may--she may have an issue about anything and not select a family for any reason that matters to her. If you are adopting a child in foster care any mental health history will be taken into consideration. What will matter the most in that case is How you have managed the depression and if you have taken steps to have it treated. In these cases, families may need to spend time and have a psychological evaluation...Often, a parents history and how they have managed it may be considered a benefit when placing children from foster care--As whom else can… [cont.]
Answered by HappyMomAnna - Thu Feb 26 13:45:06 2009

What is the difference between adoption disruption and adoption dissolution?
Q. I'm curious, people mention adoption disruption but do people really know what that is and why it's different from an adoption dissolution?
Asked by CP - Mon Jan 21 15:46:31 2008 - - 3 Answers - 2 Comments

A. Laurie is right. People tend to use the word disruption for both situations, though.
Answered by Erin L - Mon Jan 21 19:26:07 2008

How do pet adoption fees ensure the animal gets to a good home?
Q. I want to sell my parakeets and have noticed that other people who are selling parakeets ask for adoption fees of up to 60 $ Why? How can adoption fees ensure my bird will get to a good home?
Asked by John Bender - Wed Apr 23 21:30:39 2008 - - 5 Answers - 0 Comments

A. Having an adoption fee or selling a bird or any pet doesn't ensure they are going to be taken care of it only shows maybe an intention of wanting something that they would be willing to pay for. There have been lots of pets adopted from shelters, and other places only to have been abused, neglected, even killed by the adopter, purchaser, etc. You can start by asking the person interested in your keets what their knowledge of owning a parakeet is like what kind of food, houseing, daily care, treats, the bird should have. Taking the bird to them so you can see the home, making a list of the things that parakeets need and require for good health and care and comfort and making sure to give it to the person you choose, ask them who their… [cont.]
Answered by Big Rigger - Thu Apr 24 01:59:03 2008

What do you think about international adoption?
Q. I am currently in the proces of adopting a child from China. Recently, there has been a lot of debate regarding international adoption. A lot of people ask why I am adopting from another country when there are kids here that need to be adopted. I feel the system in the US is too hard to deal with and that the adoptive parents do not have as many rights as the birthmother. She can decide to not terminate parental rights at any time. It should be her perrogative, but I don't want to have a failed placement. That's why I've chosen international adoption. What's your opinion? My husband does not want to foster. I considered that in the beginning, but respect his decision. Not everybody is cut out to be a foster parent. You have to be… [cont.]
Asked by Angela M - Sat Jan 13 01:24:49 2007 - - 15 Answers - 1 Comments

A. First off I want to say good luck and that adoption of any kind is great. Also Chinesse babies are adorable! Now...I am a preschool teacher for under privlaged kids (poor, foster, adopted, and split home). I am a very strong believer in American adoption, when I am ready I am adopting from the US instead of having my own. Untill people are with the system they really don't understand exactly how many babies, toddlers, and children are in America that are in need of love and family. Unfortunatly our system doesn't screen the foster parents great and dont keep up on them great. I have seen MANY children that are in foster homes, not being taken care of well and with very mean foster parents in homes that the children should never be placed… [cont.]
Answered by softball_whitney_04 - Sat Jan 13 03:27:00 2007

What is the adoption process for adopting a rabbit at most shelters?
Q. Im looking to adopt a bunny, more specificly for the Luna house inc. but i would like to know the adoption process.
Asked by munkeygurl55 - Tue Jan 20 18:31:55 2009 - - 3 Answers - 0 Comments

A. Okay so I guess you don't want to call them and find out exactly. Usually the adoption process includes this: -Interview (find out what life at home is like) -Choose bunny -Visit with bunny -Fill out paperwork -Vet referral -May have home visit (more likely a week or so after adopting to make sure bunny is happy)
Answered by Em - Tue Jan 20 18:38:16 2009

How soon after an adoption is final is it considered appropriate to see someone?
Q. I gave a child up for adoption recently, and have been receiving date invitations, and have turned them down. However, I do wish to date. How soon is it "alright" to do so?
Asked by Kati S. - Tue Dec 25 16:18:11 2007 - - 11 Answers - 1 Comments

A. I think you should get on with your life as soon as you are ready. Just make sure you don't repeat past mistakes. I'm proud of you for making a loving choice for your child. It was the hardest choice and I'm sure even harder after you gave birth. I am the mother of a 28 year old adopted daughter. I prayed frequently for my daughters biological mother and I suspect there's someone out there praying for you too.
Answered by School Nurse - Tue Dec 25 18:58:36 2007

What to do before home study for adoption?
Q. I'm just starting the adoption process. I have found two special needs children that are currently in foster care. To be able to adopt either of them I need to complete a home study. Both boys are toddlers. What types of things can I prepare in my house before the social worker comes to increase the ease of the home study? Will I need to have a room already completed for a child? Will I need to have the home "child-proofed"? Any tips on the home study process, or on adoption from foster care are much appreciated.
Asked by sweet_ottalie - Thu May 3 05:13:19 2007 - - 7 Answers - 0 Comments

A. the inspection of the house will be the same as for foster care. You can usually ge the book from your foster care co-ordinator. Basically safety covers on light sockets, no chemicals under sink or locked. Locked medicine box, power tools and paint and things out of reach in garage. In our case the inspection was the last meeting to be had,. The homestudy also involves interviews and paperwork. Make copies of all birth certificates, marriage lisence, divorce papers, tax records, pay check stubs, home, life and care insurance papers. Make doctors appointments for physicals of adult members. You do not need a room ready yet, just to show that you have room to put them. there is a site called adoption.com that has all kinds of info and… [cont.]
Answered by Molly - Thu May 3 08:42:57 2007

How would you measure adoption to raising your own flesh and blood?
Q. Could adoption ever measure up to actually giving birth and/or raising your own child that is made up of your and your significant others genetics? Do you think a parent could ever have as strong of a bond with an adopted child as their own newborn child; this question would especially apply to women, considering giving birth is hard work with such a priceless reward. I also imagine how proud a father feels that he made a contribution to creating something as special as continuing his own bloodline and watching the child grow up with his own genetics and develop similar characteristics as his.
Asked by ARTY - Thu May 22 23:00:56 2008 - - 17 Answers - 0 Comments

A. Art, it sounds like you've made your mind up on the issue, and that is fine, but I think you might want to spend a little time with an adoptive father and ask him. A couple of famous folks who adopted their children: John McCain, Bob Hope, George Burns, Joseph (father to Jesus), John Denver, Walt Disney, Nicole Kidman ... A couple of famous adopted kids: Faith Hill, Bill Clinton, Gerald Ford, Jesse Jackson, Eric Dickerson, Nat King Cole ... Now, you may not think every person listed above is the cat's pj's, but each one of them have made a direct impact on our society. We would be diminished as a people if those folks had not been adopted or adopted a little child. Seriously, before you close the door totally, call the local agency… [cont.]
Answered by bill s - Fri May 23 19:03:48 2008

How can i start adoption procedure in USA if i have adopted a child overseas legally.?
Q. I have signed a legal adoption deed with child's biological parents in India. We are a childless couple even after 28 years of marriage. I do not know how to start procedure to bring this adopted child in US.Appreciate it if someone can help.
Asked by Paramjeet Bains - Fri Nov 6 14:48:58 2009 - - 4 Answers - 0 Comments

A. My wife and I have adopted from India and we have also lived there for three years. What you describe to me sounds very "fishy". First off I would question if the adoption was done legally since there would have had to be home studies and court appearances in India, not just papers signed by the parents. Also, India does not allow their children to be adopted out of the country unless they have cleared through the formal Indian process first. You can sign what ever you want with the child's parents but if it is not approved by the Indian courts they will not allow the child to leave the country, nore will any country issue a visa for the child. The only valid source of info for Indian adoptions is this site: It will provide all of… [cont.]
Answered by Randy B - Fri Nov 6 18:24:59 2009

How to find good adoption attorney in Peru?
Q. I am looking for a good international adoption attorney in Peru to help me work with MIMDES (I don't want to go through any of the agencies currently working in Peru). Where can I find any recommendation or feedback boards other than embassy list of attorneys?
Asked by adoptori - Fri Aug 17 20:35:28 2007 - - 1 Answers - 0 Comments

A. Try contacting this agency . They specialize in adoption in Peru and will surely have an attorney.
Answered by Still Me - Sun Aug 19 01:16:53 2007

What do adoption speakers talk about when they go to schools?
Q. Inspired by another question, I'd like to know what is discussed when an adoption speaker goes to a schools? Is it strictly adoption, or is ther family preservation included? Any and all details would be appriciated.
Asked by Lori A - Wed Apr 15 08:36:33 2009 - - 3 Answers - 0 Comments

A. I was invited to speak at a high school in my area. They wanted to hear about my experience. So, I told them about being sent away, and being forced against my will to surrender my child. I also told them about the civil rights violations that were part of a woman's existence in the 1960s. These rights violations included such practices as expelling pregnant students and firing pregnant workers, as well as taking babies from unmarried mothers without cause. I also talked about my search and reunion, and my support for work in family preservation.
Answered by kitta - Wed Apr 15 14:25:38 2009

What are adoption practices in other countries?
Q. Not in how the west exploits adoption, but in other countries how are adoptions, if at all, practiced?
Asked by Opedial - Sun Jan 25 19:52:03 2009 - - 2 Answers - 0 Comments

A. Let me answer for India. You go to an orphanage and choose from the ones that are ready to be placed. You must be meeting all guidelines that are put down by the goverment under CARA. Documentation is done and then you take the child home for fostering.After several month to a year the court grants you full custody. Private adoption practises are highly unethical and more popular but not too common. Don't have stats though to offer. You know a doctor, and then she/he knows some expectant mother(poor or unwed) or a mother post birth (mostly after realising its a girl child after birth since sex determination during pregnancy is not allowed) and she knows of some one who is looking to adopt privately. The doctor or hospital authority calls… [cont.]
Answered by Indian-vision - Mon Jan 26 00:32:51 2009

What is your favorite thing about adoption and what is your least favorite thing about adoption?
Q. I know it's been asked a million times as all the adoption question ares. But again what is YOUR favorite part about adoption and what is YOUR least favorite thing about adoption?
Asked by foxylilalley - Sat Aug 21 14:29:26 2010 - - 18 Answers - 0 Comments

A. Favorite- That I was raised by great people who made me feel safe and secure. Least favorite- That I had to be born to those other creeps who were given way too many chances at raising me (and FAILING), instead of the people who stepped up and finished the job.
Answered by The Sweetest Thing - Sun Aug 22 02:33:09 2010

What are the primary post adoption issues for adoptive parents to consider?
Q. My husband and I have been set an assignement from our social worker who is carrying out our home study and it is to discuss Post Adoption and all of the issues therein, from the time our child comes home with us.
Asked by Scubachickbz - Tue Jun 22 08:28:32 2010 - - 5 Answers - 0 Comments

A. Post adoption Issues: - When and how will you talk to your child about adoption? - How will you address the topic at the various stages of their life (how to discuss adoption with a 14 yr old is very different to a 5 year old)? - What will you tell your child about their first family and their family history? - If it is an open adoption how will organise visitation and the sharing of information, letters and photos etc with the first family? - If it is not an open adoption how will you deal with the possibility that your child may want to search for their first family or they (or you) may want more information about their family or medical history? - Are there siblings? Will your child have contact with them? - How will you deal… [cont.]
Answered by Polly - Tue Jun 22 09:35:10 2010

Do you think it is possible for adoption workers to give unbiased advice about adoption?
Q. Adoption workers are paid by hopeful adoptive parents to find them a child (under 2 years of age, preferably an infant). With such a big stake in the adoption being finalized, do you think it is possible for adoption workers to give unbiased advice to either the adoptive parents or the pregnant mother (and the baby s father)? How much should they be trusted by adoptive parents? How much should they be trusted by parents coping with an unexpected pregnancy?
Asked by grapesgum - Sat Mar 8 18:13:34 2008 - - 15 Answers - 0 Comments

A. Nope. Most adoption workers are not even degreed in social work or any related field. I would be very careful in trusting someone who claims to work in the adoption industry in real life or on the internet unless they have an actual degree in social work or a comparable field. People here have even talked about the role of adoption caseworkers. Some of them are specifically trained to befriend potential "birth mothers" so that if they do have a change of heart and decide to parent, the caseworker can try to persuade them to relinquish. Of course the fact that the person who mentioned this said it like it was a good thing is truly gut-wrenching in and of itself. But that is another story. The truth is, most adoption agencies are in it… [cont.]
Answered by Isabel A - Sat Mar 8 20:35:16 2008

What exactly is the difference between foster care and adoption?
Q. Ok so i know what adoption is, but what exactly is foster care, like how is it different from adoption? and What is your opinion on which is better? I was talking to my husband about us one day adopting and he mentioned being foster parents so I was curious as to which is better, and how exactly foster care works so I can make a better decision when the time comes.
Asked by Proud New Mommy :) - Sat Apr 5 17:17:10 2008 - - 10 Answers - 1 Comments

A. Foster care is where a family is qualified by the state to accept children in their home either on short-term or long-term basis. The goal of foster care is to provide a "safe haven" for the child while the birth parents work on their lives (if possible) to reunite the original family. In some cases this is not possible (as with mine) due to crimes or b-parents choosing or failing not to meet the recommendations of the state. In those cases, the children are made for adoption through foster care. Often called foster adopt. Adoption is different in that the children are not "removed" from the home by the state. Typically in regular adoption cases, it is the b-family who has sought out to make an adoption plan for their child and… [cont.]
Answered by Proud Adoptee - Sat Apr 5 18:33:36 2008

How do you pick the best adoption agency?
Q. My husband and I will (hopefully) begin the adoption process in September. We have been talking to AGAPE but I was wondering if there are other agencies I should consider using. And if we use one agency, can we still adopt children from other agencies? I just want to go with the best agency and would like a little feed back if anyone here has any experience in this situation. Thanks!
Asked by Wendy Jean - Tue Jun 9 10:38:04 2009 - - 9 Answers - 0 Comments

A. I would pick one that doesn't charge for children. AGAPE makes a profit on the adoptions, and to me, that is unethical. I also find many of their practices unethical. They "recruit" pregnant women so that they can coerce children from them. Based on this alone, I wouldn't ever go through them for anything. Many other agencies are the same way. Foster care is inexpensive, and those children need homes. If we stop giving our business to places like AGAPE, perhaps they will realize that they are morally bankrupt, and that everyone knows it.
Answered by DevonChaos - Tue Jun 9 12:04:37 2009

How could I start an orphanage/adoption agency in a foreign country?
Q. I have been thinking that it would be great to start an orphanage/adoption agency in a foreign country that has a lot of orphans and kids living on the streets. I was thinking about China. I know that a lot of people adopt children from there. I was just curious about what financial and political steps that I would have to go through to do something like this.
Asked by WolfmanX - Sun Jul 19 23:37:58 2009 - - 3 Answers - 0 Comments

A. Kazi made great points. bottom line is that you have LOTS of homework to do. first step will be to select a country...and then start reading. rules will be different in each country (obviously you'll have to know the law from both U.S. and that country for a start). I would suggest interviewing directors of agencies already working in that country. they can quickly coach you on the cities to stay away from or to focus on areas that still need help. good luck and be patient. there is much to learn and some countries (i.e. Russia) change their adoption policies and rules very often.
Answered by jimmy folate - Mon Jul 20 08:18:41 2009

Is a grandparent eligible for the adoption tax credit if he claims the parent as a dependent?
Q. This past year I adopted a foster child. I have been going to school and living with my parents. My dad is claiming me as a dependent. Can he also qualify for the adoption tax credit because of our new son?
Asked by Benjamin T - Thu Mar 13 18:09:07 2008 - - 1 Answers - 0 Comments

A. idon't think so because he didn't adopt the child. you did. Did he pay for the adoption fees? however your dad can claim your child as a qualifying child. That way he gets the child tax credit and another 3400 exemption.
Answered by Codys mom - Thu Mar 13 18:20:15 2008